Goodreads Giveaways of Yunnan Books

For all my friends who use Goodreads, now you can enter to win a copy of Simply Yunnan (a cookbook of simple recipes from Yunnan province in China) or From the Tea Village (a Middle Grade novel about one girl’s quest to follow her educational dreams).

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Simply Yunnan by Rebecca D. Henderson

Simply Yunnan

by Rebecca D. Henderson

Giveaway ends May 30, 2013.

See the giveaway details
at Goodreads.

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Goodreads Book Giveaway

 

From the Tea Village by Rebecca D. Henderson

 

From the Tea Village

 

by Rebecca D. Henderson

 

Giveaway ends May 20, 2013.

See the giveaway details at Goodreads.

 

 

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Good luck, everyone!

And here are the links if you wish to purchase copies:

From the Tea Village in paperback

From the Tea Village for Kindle

Simply Yunnan in paperback

Simply Yunnan for Kindle

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Rice Noodle Soup for Mother’s Day

Soup and sandwiches were on the menu for Mother’s Day brunch with my family yesterday, but the soup wasn’t your typical American Sunday fare. We opted to have the Rice Noodle Soup from Simply Yunnan to celebrate the day (see recipe below).

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Rice Noodle Soup

We met at my cousin Karen’s house and celebrated with my mom and my aunt — an admirable group of mothers who have made an impact on my life for years and continue to do so as I adjust to my new life as a (step)mom. Karen did a delicious job with the Rice Noodle Soup. For the greens she used rainbow chard from our latest vegetable co-op shipment, and I brought over some cooked chicken from my freezer to contribute as our meat option.

The soup is light yet flavorful, and rice noodles are a perfect wheat-free option for those on special diets. The recipe below is featured in my cookbook, Simply Yunnan: Simple Ingredients, Simple Technique, available on Amazon in paperback or Kindle version.

I love to make the soup after I’ve cooked a whole chicken in my crock pot and have let the bones simmer overnight for a hearty, healthful broth — one chicken provides several meals worth of cooked chicken and several cups worth of broth. For more information on how to cook a whole chicken and make bone broth, check out my friend Roxie’s recipe on her blog, Crunchy in the Panhandle (the West Virginia panhandle, not the Texas one). Side note that brings the crock pot chicken back to Yunnan — Roxie first showed me how to cook a chicken this way in her kitchen in Kunming. From Kunming to West Virginia to Texas, it’s my favorite way to get the most bang for my buck when cooking a whole chicken.

I hope you enjoy a bowl of Rice Noodle Soup soon!

Rice Noodle Soup

Serves 4

Prep time: 5 minutes

Cooking time: 35 minutes

12 oz. rice noodles (usually labelled as “rice stick” or “rice vermicelli”)

10 c. water

10 c. beef or chicken stock

1-inch piece of ginger, peeled and crushed with the flat side of a cleaver blade

3 whole star anise

2 whole cloves

salt to taste

1 to 1 1/2 c. cooked meat (beef or chicken, depending on which type of stock you use), thinly sliced

1 c. cabbage or spinach, cut in 2-inch pieces

2 spring onions, cut in 1-inch strips

chopped cilantro, red pepper flakes, soy sauce, vinegar for seasoning

 

In a large stock pot, bring the meat stock to a boil over medium-high heat, along with the ginger, star anise, and cloves. Reduce heat and simmer for 30 minutes. Remove the ginger, star anise, and cloves from the soup. Add the meat slices and simmer for 2 minutes. Add the cabbage or spinach and spring onions and simmer for 3 minutes.

During the final 10 minutes of cooking the soup, prepare the rice noodles. In a large pot, bring 10 c. water to a boil over medium-high heat. Add the rice noodles, reduce heat to medium, and boil the noodles for 4 to 5 minutes. Remove the pot from the heat and allow the noodles to continue soaking in the hot water for another 4 to 5 minutes. Alternatively, prepare the noodles according to the package’s instructions. Drain the water from the noodles.

Divide the noodles evenly into 4 large soup bowls. Ladle equal amounts of soup with meat, onions, and leafy vegetables over the noodles in each bowl. Allow each person to add cilantro, red pepper flakes, soy sauce, and vinegar according to his or her own taste.

Shopping note:

This noodle soup is best prepared using a type of thin, round rice noodle usually labeled in English as “rice stick” or “rice vermicelli” and found at Asian markets or on the Asian aisle at your grocery store.

Preparation note:

Plan to make this soup when you have leftover cooked meat that you can thinly slice; choose to make the soup with beef or chicken stock according to the type of meat you have leftover.

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A New Old Birthday Camping Tradition

A few months have passed since I posted a blog about travel, or about anything not related to my recently released books (You’ve heard, right? Check out the links in the left sidebar.). A few things have changed in these months — I moved back to Texas, I got engaged, I got married, I became a step-mom, I moved again. Life is busy. Life is wonderful.

Last weekend was my first camping trip with my new family — my husband and four step-sons (ages 5, 7, 9, and 12). I’m so very outnumbered, but in general the boys do a good job of reminding each other to speak differently and keep the body noises to a minimum in the presence of a lady. We received lots of fun camping gear as wedding presents, and all six of us were excited to venture out on our first trip now that the weather is turning warmer.

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Scoping out the best spot for our tents

In the past few years I’ve become accustomed to camping with a few friends or by myself, so it was a challenge to me to come up with all the food for six people for the weekend and make sure we didn’t forget anything important for meal preparation. I’m ok by myself winging it with peanut butter and honey sandwiches all weekend — I knew the boys, however, would not be satisfied with such little sustenance and variety. I planned and packed accordingly, and the boys ate like they were starving all weekend (heaven help us during the teen years). Of course, I had more than one cup of coffee from my trusty percolator during the weekend.

In the woods is the best place to drink coffee.

In the woods is the best place to drink coffee.

This was my third camping trip in a row on the first weekend of April. Two years ago my sister, brother-in-law, and I took my niece camping on spring break/Easter in the mountains of North Carolina. Last year my friend Jen and I went camping on Easter/my birthday in the Columbia River Gorge and the Oregon Coast. And this year, I decided that three years in a row means it’s now a tradition. From here out, our family will make every attempt to go camping on the first weekend of April/Easter/my birthday. It’s the beginning of a family tradition, and a very good tradition indeed.

Hiking through a nearby meadow

Hiking through a nearby meadow

It was also our first trip with the boys where we used our new Texas State Parks annual pass. The past two years I’ve made good use of a National Parks annual pass. On our honeymoon Stephen and I phased out the National Parks pass a few days before it expired, and we purchased a State Parks pass to use over this year with the boys. So far we’ve visited (either as a couple or with the boys) Dinosaur Valley State Park, Monahans Sandhills, Davis Mountains, and now we’ve camped at Cleburne State Park. The boys enjoyed running around in the wilderness, climbing trees, playing in the dirt and the rocks — we didn’t even have time to take them to the lake this weekend at Cleburne, but they had a blast. With it being only 45 minutes from our house, I’m sure this will be a favorite camping spot for years to come.

Here’s to a new family tradition and the years to come!

A second round of Easter egg hunts -- lots of great hiding places in the trees

A second round of Easter egg hunts — lots of great hiding places in the trees

We also hunted for bugs.

We also hunted for bugs.

My fave part of camping -- sitting and being still. For a moment.

My fave part of camping — sitting and being still. For a moment.

Glow sticks after sundown

Glow sticks after sundown

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Yunnan books now available!

Now available on Amazon

From the Tea Village (novel) — paperback or Kindle

Simply Yunnan (cookbook) — paperback or Kindle

After several years of work, my novel and its companion cookbook are now available for purchase on Amazon. In so many ways these books were made possible by your loving support. I truly hope you enjoy them both!

10 Ways to Help Launch These Books:

1. Buy a paperback copy — I’ll sign it next time I see you!
2. Give a Kindle version as a gift — you can request an “authorgraph” and inscription for e-books as well.
3. “Like” the Facebook pages for the novel and the cookbook.
4. Add the novel and cookbook to your Goodreads shelf and become a fan of my author page.
5. Leave honest reviews of the books on Amazon and Goodreads.
6. Give a paperback copy of From the Tea Village to a tween girl as a birthday/Easter/summer reading gift.
7. Share your opinions of the books by posting on Facebook or Twitter.
8. Make a Simply Yunnan meal for your family or friends and post pics on the Facebook page.
9. Suggest Tea Village as reading for your book club, small group, etc.
10. Host a Simply Yunnan party and cook a few dishes with your friends — I might be able to join your party if it’s in driving distance of Fort Worth (contact me for details).

Thank you for all the ways you support my writing! You are the best readers an author could ask for.

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Cover Reveal for Yunnan Books

Introducing…

the cover artwork for the upcoming books by Rebecca D. Henderson

Everything’s more official when the design work is finished, right? The wonderful team at Streetlight Graphics put together the cover designs for both books, and I’m thrilled to be able to share their completed work with you today.

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!SimplyYunnan 1600 Barnes and Noble

Both books will be available in paperback and Kindle edition through Amazon on 3-18-13. More details to come at that time. Until then, thank you as always for your support for these creative endeavors.

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And if you’re on Facebook, you can also “like” the books: here for Tea Village and here for Simply Yunnan.

Thanks!

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Book Review: Pursuing Justice

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What is justice?

Depending on the context, the word could refer to fairness and equality, to honesty and morality, to punishment and retribution.

But what does the Bible have to say about justice?

A whole lot, it turns out. Anyone interested in a comprehensive look at the biblical concept of justice — or what ought to be, according to Ken Wytsma — should pick up Wytsma’s book Pursuing Justice: The Call to Live and Die for Bigger Things. (Disclosure: I received an advance reader’s copy of the book from Thomas Nelson for review.) Wytsma is the pastor of Antioch Church in Bend, Oregon, the president of Kilns College, and the founder of The Justice Conference, “a two-day annual event to promote dialogue around justice related issues such as human trafficking, slavery, poverty, HIV/AIDS and human rights.”

At first glance of the book’s subtitle, I thought that the book would focus on the list of issues in the previous paragraph, that there would be long sections discussing the statistics of modern day slavery or the plight of refugees throughout the world — issues that need to be brought to light, no question — and that Wytsma’s purpose would be to motivate readers to become involved in organizations working to help people around the world who face injustice. But his purpose in this book is so much greater than adding his voice to the many advocating for various peoples and organizations and causes — as he says in the book, social justice seems to have become a fad in certain circles, and a lot of us really don’t need another pet cause. What we need is a deeper understanding of what the Bible says about justice so that our heart and our actions line up as we seek to live out a right relationship with God and with other people. After reading the book, I feel challenged not just to continue finding ways to give my time, money, prayer, and efforts to serving in my hometown or around the world, but to look more closely at my personal relationships and how they are or are not a reflection of the gospel of Christ, how I am or am not considering others before myself (Philippians 2:3-4).

A few other main points that stuck out to me in the book:

* In the Bible the words righteousness and  justice are often used as synonyms. We make a separation between the two in our English-speaking minds, but to God there is no difference. You cannot be righteous if you are not doing justly.

* Seeing the Imago Dei (image of God) in every single person spurs us on to live lives of justice. If every person on this earth bears God’s image, how can we not do what is necessary to bring about what ought to be?

* Justice involves more than my favorite cause — for me that would be teaching ESL to refugees or advocating for minority peoples in SE Asia, but for others there are countless equally important causes. I can’t have my little areas where I try to live justly, but then have gaps in other areas of life where I just don’t notice or care about the injustice right in front of me (even within my family or neighborhood). Wytsma poses the question, what am I blind to? What are the ways in every day situations that I am hindering people, making life more difficult for them when I should be trying to make it better?

* Justice brings joy to our lives. This is HUGE. It should be a major factor in changing our motivation for living out justice in our lives. We should not be compelled by guilt to help others. We should not be doing acts of justice as an attempt to gain favor with God. We should be living just lives and seeking to bring justice to the lives of others because Jesus says it will bring us joy, just as it brought Him joy. Jesus endured the cross and despised its shame because of the joy set before Him (check out Hebrews 12:2), and He invites us to live the same way. That, friends, is the call to live and die for bigger things. The joy we have in Jesus is worth so much more than anything we may think we’re giving up to live a life of justice.

If you want to be challenged, informed, encouraged, exhorted, I highly recommend Pursuing Justice. It will remain on my shelf as a book I refer back to in years to come.

If you’re interested in learning more about the upcoming Justice Conference, check out their website — if you can’t make it to Philly, maybe there’s a simulcast available at a church in your area.

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On Chivalry: A Review of “Falling For Your Madness”

Recently on Twitter, I read a New York Times article tweeted by author Katharine Grubb (@10MinuteWriter), describing the “post-dating” culture of America today. No one goes on dates any more. They hang out, and they hook up, but hardly ever do young men ask young women out on dates these days.

I interacted with Katharine about the article (I tweeted back to her that the girl in the last paragraph is the only one in the article with any sense) and about the book she recently published, Falling For Your Madness, which deals with the themes of chivalry, courtship, dating, and men and women’s power roles in relationships. I had already read a few positive reviews of Katharine’s book, but after talking to her about the subject of relationships, I found myself all worked up and ready to get on a soapbox, so I quickly ordered the Kindle version of Falling For Your Madness and jumped right into reading it.

A nice synopsis of the book can be found on its Goodreads page:

“Eccentric literature professor David approaches Laura for a counter-cultural, rule-filled relationship filled with poetry, flowers and bottom-less cups of tea. He makes it very clear to her that they are just friends. If she wants to be more — if she wants to be sweethearts — then she is the only one that can move them forward. Laura is smitten by his humor, his charm, and his English accent (which turns out to be fake). In his company, she has never felt more beautiful or ladylike. David tells Laura that the reason he has these rules is because he is bound by the laws of chivalry, both body and soul. Then Laura finds out the real reason, one that’s ancient, filled with legend and magic. Yet Laura has complete control of this madman. Should she release him or tell him she wants more? Is he eccentric or just mad? Falling For Your Madness is not just a romantic comedy, but it also asks the question, who has the most power in a relationship? The lady? Or the gentleman?”

And here’s what I wrote on Goodreads after posting my 5-star rating of the book:

“After seeing so many positive reviews, I decided to give this one a try, even though it’s billed as a ‘quirky romance’ and I’m not a romance reader. But ‘romance’ is a misnomer, in my opinion — or maybe I have the wrong definition of romance in my mind, something that you would be embarrassed to admit you’re reading and would feel the need to conceal the cover. Falling For Your Madness is not that at all — I would put it in the same category as romantic comedy films. It is indeed quirky, has clever dialog, an unusual main character, and a surprising twist that I absolutely adored. It is a book for readers — tons of references to literature — and it is a book for those who are interested in characters who *have* character. I found myself cheering throughout the book, excited to see a leading lady who *is* a lady and a leading male who is strong, considerate, mature, selfless, and utterly masculine. So many more things I could say about the positive nature of the main relationship — his chivalry and determination to protect her heart at all times; her encouragement of him to be a strong leader and excel at what he does. At the same time, their relationship isn’t perfect and goes through times of lack of trust, questioning, struggling to balance one person’s needs with the other’s — I really appreciated the way these things were handled. Overall, a fun story, very clever concept, and characters I admired.”

I would have enjoyed the book regardless, but I liked it all the more because of how it made me reflect on my own relationship with my fiance. Stephen and I didn’t have a courtship with all the same numerous rules as David and Laura — but we did have a few rules, and Stephen did treat me differently than other men I dated in the past. Like David in the book, Stephen was always very clear about where our relationship stood, never left me guessing how he felt about me or whether he was going to write or call — he openly told me how he felt at each step and that he wanted to protect my heart and honor me as a lady. Stephen is a gentleman, and he came along at a point in my life when I had decided I no longer wanted to date non-committal, immature grown men. If he had given any indication that he would treat me the same way as the guys in the NYT article or as Trey in Falling For Your Madness, I was fully prepared to tell him I didn’t want to talk to him any longer — I would rather be alone than be treated that way. But thank God (literally, I thank God) that’s not how our love story turned out.

What do you think? Is chivalry, courtship — or even modern dating, gasp — dead?

Check out Katharine Grubb’s author page on Goodreads and enter her giveaway — enter before February 14 for one of three autographed copies of her book. And then go a step further and support an indie author — don’t wait until Valentine’s, but head over to Amazon to buy a copy of the paperback or the Kindle edition. Tis the season.

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Why My Books are Perfect for Self-publishing

I’ve mentioned it a few times, but in case you’re not aware, I’m publishing two books in March, From the Tea Village (a middle grade novel) and Simply Yunnan (a cookbook). You can read more about them by clicking here.

What you may not be aware of, however, is that I’m self-publishing the books and completely thrilled to be experiencing the publishing process as an indie author. Each step of publishing — from registering for an ISBN to hiring the designer (check out the work of Streetlight Graphics) to viewing the cover for the first time to becoming a Goodreads Author — has been a dream come true. These books that I’ve poured my heart into for the past few years are becoming a physical reality.

The process didn’t start out quite this way. After writing my novel, I traveled the traditional route, sent out numerous query letters, and had positive interactions with a handful of agents and small publishers who read part or all of my manuscript. I was encouraged about my writing style and the quality of my work — but over and again I was told things like, “The book is publishable, but not for us” or “I love the writing/story/details about Yunnan, but I don’t think this book will sell” or “The characters and setting are too exotic.” The last one is especially ironic considering I heard this from multiple agents who have posted that they’re looking for multi-cultural works to add to their book lists. But following the protocol of politeness in response to rejected queries, I’m not allowed to point out to them the contradictory nature of their responses or the fact that the “too exotic” argument doesn’t stand when you consider the proliferation of fantasy and dystopian books for a young adult audience. Exotic is OK as long as it’s fantasy, not Asian.

Through talking with these agents and publishers, with other writers, and with other entrepreneurs, I’ve decided that in my situation self-publishing is perfect. As a self-pubbed author I can make decisions based on my heart, not just on money. There is an audience for my books — it’s not a national best-selling audience, but I’m ok with that. Agents and publishers don’t want to take risks for books that won’t pay my salary and theirs, but I am willing to take a risk for my own sake. My success or failure only affects me. That is a good feeling.

To self-publish I can work on my own time-table. I can take the time I need to do quality writing, work on revisions and editing, and arrange for the design work, while still living a healthy life with the correct focus on God, family, and other relationships. I set my own deadlines and choose my own launch dates. Having been a freelancer for the past three years, I’ve grown accustomed to being in control of my own schedule, and I like maintaining that control over the life of my books.

And so my first two books will be available in March, and the people who want to read books like mine (with a story set in a realistic but exotic location with a main character who deals with real-life problems and is not obsessed with romance at too young an age) will be able to. If the books fail, I am the only one responsible for their failure. If they succeed, I’m the one who benefits from that success. I was responsible to write a good story, get feedback from beta readers and editors, make the appropriate changes to make it a book my audience would want to read — and now I’m responsible for getting the books into the hands of that audience. I like having this responsibility

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Review of Recently Read Books, Part 2

Last week I posted about non-fiction books I’ve read in recent weeks, and this week it’s time to talk about fiction and memoirs. Lest anyone think I’m lumping memoirs in with fiction for reasons of memoirs’ veracity, let me clarify that I’m categorizing them together because of similarity in writing form. The non-fiction books I listed last week are prescriptive. Both fiction and memoirs are descriptive and contain narrative rather than topical chapters. So there you have it.

Let’s start with fiction. In preparation for the movie release, I read for the first time The Hobbit by J.R.R. Tolkien. Not only was it my first time to read The Hobbit, it was my first time to read anything by Tolkien. As an English major, I’m a little ashamed to admit that, and I’m also sad that it took me so long to realize how wonderful Tolkien’s writing is. I’ve seen all of the Lord of the Rings trilogy twice, but I still can’t keep large chunks of the story straight with all of the various characters and their unusual names. After reading The Hobbit, watching the movie, and never once feeling confused by the story, I can’t wait to read the trilogy and experience the story as it was originally intended — in book form.

Not long after reading The Hobbit, I picked up where I left off in the Harry Potter series, the fifth book, Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix, and I made the opposite decision with that series — at this point I don’t think I will continue reading the rest of the series. Not because I haven’t enjoyed it greatly. Not because I don’t think it’s a remarkable story. But because I have such a limited time to read. My fiance, his 12-year-old son, and I recently watched all eight movies in the series (not all at once, over eight weeks — settle down!), and I don’t struggle to keep up with the story in that series like I do with LOTR. Now that I know how it all ends (probably the last person in America to know), I don’t think I need to read the rest of the books. If I’d been reading them when they came out, I would feel differently. But there’s only so many hours in the day and too many books on my to-read shelf. Please forgive me, HP fans.

Moving on to memoirs, a friend loaned me a well-loved (read: tattered) copy of Who Gets the Drumstick?: The Story of the Beardsley Familywith Lucille Ball and Henry Fonda on the cover. After losing her Navy pilot husband in an accident, Helen North (mother of eight children) meets and marries widower Frank Beardsley (father of ten children). Yep, that’s eighteen kids. Plus two more kids together. Twenty kids. I had expected a book from this time period to be overly sentimental and melodramatic, but the writing was both straightforward and clever. It’s a quick read and an enjoyable story, and the parts where Helen Beardsley shares her heart about losing her husband and falling in love again are well done and moving. Plus, Beardsley’s descriptions of the logistics and planning involved in smoothly running a household of twenty-two are fascinating.

Next I read After Action: The True Story of a Cobra Pilot’s Journey by Dan Sheehan. The majority of the book is a fast-paced account of Sheehan’s involvement as a Marine Corps helicopter pilot in the beginning of the Iraq war — I could hardly put it down, it is so well written and well paced. The last fifty pages or so, describing Sheehan’s decision to put pen to paper and the process of completing his book, were equally as gripping as the battle scenes, in my opinion, as Sheehan works through and identifies some of the emotions and memories he carried home from war. I highly recommend the book, with the caveat that it uses rough language throughout (I find that the language gives authenticity to Sheehan’s descriptions, but just wanted to offer the advance notice for anyone who might want to know).

What I hope to read next: Peace Like a River by Leif Enger; Housekeeping by Marilynne Robinson; Matt Archer: Blade’s Edge by Kendra C. Highley; Falling For Your Madness by Katharine Grubb.

I see that I don’t have any memoirs on my to-read list — any suggestions? Or suggestions in fiction?

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Review of Recently Read Books, Part 1

It’s been a while since I’ve posted a list of books that I’m reading, but there’s no time like now to change that.

I’m calling this post a review of “recently read” books because they aren’t recent books, just books that I’ve been reading recently. I’m afraid these days I’m behind the times when it comes to reading the newest and most popular titles, but I’d rather focus during this season of my life on the topics that are most practical and relevant to what I’m going through, with a few fiction and memoir titles sprinkled in for good measure. And so, here’s the break down of what’s been on my night stand the past few months:

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A lot of these titles would fall under the category “Marriage and Family” — not a category I’ve done much reading in in the past. I’m quickly finding there are good and helpful books to read in this genre, and there are…other books. I’m only writing here about the ones I recommend.

Boundaries by Henry Cloud and John Townsend — Friends and coworkers told me for years that I should read this one, and last summer I finally did. Now I realize just how influential the book is and why — it seems like every other title I’ve picked up recently quotes Boundaries or draws openly from its concepts. I highly recommend it for anyone who seeks to understand how better to relate to family members, coworkers, and friends in a way that protects your own mental and emotional health. I did quite a bit of highlighting in my Kindle copy to reread later, particularly in the section that discusses the boundary needs of children and parents during the stages of development.

ScreamFree Parenting by Hal Edward Runkel — My fiance, Stephen, recommended this one as the parenting book that has most influenced how he handles problem situations with his boys, so I eagerly read it to understand more about Stephen’s parenting style and found that Runkel quotes Boundaries and makes some similar points. Contrary to the title’s suggestion, the book isn’t just about not screaming at your kids. Every person has a different way of reacting in stressful situations, whether it is to scream, to shut down and become distant, to become sarcastic and insulting, or whatever. The premise of the book is that the parent should be the person in the house who sets the pace and maintains a sense of order, not reacting to children out of anxiety, fear, or a need to control. When we react to children’s misbehavior in negative ways, we teach children that they should behave so that we don’t scream at or ignore them — we’re manipulating them rather than teaching them and training them.

As soon as I read the book I started seeing multiple relationships in my life that have moments where I’m reacting and trying to control — screaming might not be my M.O., but still, I think there are ways I can apply the lessons of the book so that it’s not just about ScreamFree Parenting but ScreamFree Life.

The Smart Stepmom by Ron L. Deal and Laura Petherbridge — Yet another book that mentions Boundaries. I learned of this book through a podcast series by FamilyLife Today that Stephen and I listened to on our drive from Washington to Texas. I’m often hesitant to listen to “Christian” radio shows because I’ve found many of them to be “feel good,” lacking substance, or just downright annoying in their upbeatness. But the “Your Stepfamily: Standing Strong” series was refreshingly realistic, and Ron Deal and Laura Petherbridge’s book turned out to be equally grounded in reality but steeped in hope for the long term. Building a successful stepfamily takes years of work, and stepmothers often feel isolated, stigmatized, and unrecognized — but the fruit of the sacrifices made by stepmoms is more than worth it. As I prepare to become a stepmom to four boys (Oh my word. Four boys.), I enter into this family knowing that it will be far from easy, may often be heart-breaking, but if I live my days looking to God’s grace and praying to be a display of His presence to the boys, then I can be the stepmom I need to be.

Preparing for Marriage by John Piper — A thin e-book (can you call e-books thin?), the first chapter contains a long series of questions that Stephen and I worked through over several evenings — questions on everything from theology to household duties to expectations for the holidays. Highly recommended. Download it here.

Currently reading: Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas (the central question is a big one: what if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?); The Treasure Principle by Randy Alcorn; Pursuing Justice by Ken Wytsma.

Reading next: Anatomy of the Soul by Curt Thompson; Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman; The Explicit Gospel by Matt Chandler; Blame it on the Brain by Edward T. Welch.

This started out as one long blog post, but I decided to divide it into two. Look for the next post to cover fiction and memoirs.

What are you reading lately? Do you prefer fiction or non-fiction?

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