Silver

A while back a village lady about my same age explained to me the significance of earrings for women in her culture. When a girl is in her teens and starting to think about getting married, she adorns her ears with long, flashy, stylish earrings, not unlike what a girl in town would also wear. After she’s married, she tones it down a bit, but still wears whatever is trendy in current earring fashion.

After she begins having children and moves into the matronly category of women in the village, she switches to wearing large traditional silver pieces as a symbol of her family’s prosperity. By the time she is a grandmother, the weight of the earrings has stretched out the holes in her ear lobes to be big enough to poke a finger through. She no longer wears the family silver at this point, the holes in her ears now a sign that she has passed down her wealth to the next generation.

A couple of weeks ago, Fidi and I were at Adam’s house in MN village, getting ready to talk to a village musician later in the afternoon. Adam’s mom passed the time with us, comparing her skirt fabric and ours, admiring Fidi’s carved silver bracelet from Thailand.

“I have silver jewelry too—would you like for me to show you?” she asked.

She has a sweet and welcoming demeanor, but is always busy with some cooking or cleaning task around their wooden stilt house. I was glad for her to take the time to sit down and talk with us.

She brought out several bracelets, thick and weighty. One was a broad, carved wrist band; the others were snake-like coils for the upper arm. We passed them around and tried them on, and then she handed me something I wasn’t quite sure of. Two long, thin strips of silver wound loosely in a spiral. “My earrings from when I was younger,” she explained.

So this is how they did it, how they expanded the holes in their ears. The spiral is wound tightly to begin with and gradually loosened, causing the hole to grow. Eventually the silver strips are removed, but the skin is permanently stretched. I tried winding the strips as tight as I could, just to see what the smallest size of earring would be—even at their tightest, it would take a great deal of effort and a period of time to get them inside your ear lobes.

Adam’s mom assured me it didn’t hurt, though I’ve had enough ear and nose piercings (we’re talking double digits) to question her honesty. The price of beauty and status in the village—not so far off from the price I’ve been willing to pay.

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Visa Run

My current Chinese visa requires that I leave the country every 60 days.  No one cares how long I’m out of the country, as long as I leave.  Holders of this type of visa who live in central parts of the country have to make regular trips to Hong Kong.  Living as I do in the most southern reaches of Yunnan, I’m a quick three hour drive from a very open border crossing into Laos.  So, once every two months, I hop in the truck with a fully charged iPod and head down the highway to spend an hour or two eating lunch across the border.

This past spring, a teammate and I were questioned by Chinese immigration officials, both entering and leaving the country, setting our nerves on edge for future visa runs.  On my most recent trip to Laos, I was particularly anxious to avoid a certain official who, in the midst of asking, “Are you working in China?” and “How long do you plan to stay in the country?”—kept sneaking in, “Can I call you in town?  What is your phone number?”  Nowhere on the entry form does it ask for a contact number, and the last thing I need is a border agent calling me at all hours of the night to go karaoke on his weekend off.  I persisted in not telling him by smiling and shaking my head each time he asked, hoping he would assume that meant I didn’t have a phone, praying my phone didn’t ring in my purse while I was standing there.

But I didn’t encounter that official this time around.  Or anyone else who asked me anything.  No buses of tourists from Thailand were crossing at the same time, nor Chinese merchants who run stalls in Lao markets.  The immigration buildings on both sides of the border were oddly silent, and the officials were agreeably sleepy.  Not a single question asked coming or going.  Relief.

Another difference between this trip and earlier ones is the precautions both countries are now taking against swine flu.  A Lao official took my temperature before allowing me to apply to enter his country.  I passed.  Re-entering China, I had to fill out a form declaring myself symptom-free.  The official at that counter became impatient with how long I was taking to check “yes” or “no”—even though I was the only person in the building who wasn’t an employee of the immigration department, and I’m not sure what his rush was to get me through the non-existent line.  While I was trying to figure out if the question was “Do you have these flu symptoms?” (no) or “Are you free of these symptoms?” (yes), he took the pen out of my hand and checked “no” on my behalf.  I’m glad he thought I looked healthy.

The bowl of pho for lunch on the Lao side of the border made the six hours of driving all the more enjoyable.  I go to the same stand every time—where the owners speak to me in Lao, not Chinese.  We can communicate enough for me to order lunch (with beef, not pork) and for them to tell me the price.  I savored my noodles and soup to the background noise of a Thai soap opera on the TV, lingering in this place more foreign to me than China has become.  Afterwards, I walked the 2km back through no-man’s-land to the Chinese side of the border, back to the country that has been my temporary home for the past several years.  Knowing I only have 60 days before needing to leave again increases the sense of temporariness.

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Handicrafts

One of my teammates is thinking about starting a small business to make and sell handicrafts locally, and I’ve been sharing some of my own design ideas with her lately to help her think through what might be good sellers.  For years now I’ve been collecting pieces of traditional fabrics from Asian markets, with the hopes of one day having time to design my own bags and skirts.  Now I can make the time to do it, all in the name of helping a co-worker get her business up and running.

We have also been talking about teaching our friends in the villages how to make bead jewelry so they can sell it here in town for some extra income.  One of our main problems for now is finding the supplies to make large quantities of jewelry.  Beads are abundant in larger cities in Asia, but in our small town they are hard to come by.  So when a local friend told me I could find wholesale beads in the Thai import market near my apartment, I went to check it out.

I easily found the store she told me about, but was disappointed when I realized that the vast majority of their stock was Buddhist prayer beads.  I did find one small bin of simple jade beads of various shades, though, and decided to buy a few as a sample.  As I was digging through the bin and haggling with the Chinese shop owner over the price, I glanced up and realized the only other customer in the store was a Burmese Muslim jade dealer who was sorting through a stack of threads for making necklaces and bracelets.

It was one of those odd moments in life where I catch myself thinking, “How on earth did I end up here?”  A Christian girl from Texas, shopping next to a Burmese Muslim man wearing a long beard and a longyi, in a Chinese Buddhist shop of imports from Thailand.  Surreal.


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Water Splashing Festival

Water Splashing Festival (a.k.a. Songkran, Pi Mai Lao, Po Shui Jie, and other names depending on which country you’re in and which language you’re speaking) is a Southeast Asian Buddhist holiday, the traditional New Year in Thailand and Laos and for the Dai people here in China.

There’s a local legend about how the tradition of splashing water on each other started, though I’m not sure if it’s the same story in other countries.  The following is a typical description of the legend, taken from an English language website in China; I find the story to be more “demonic” and “gruesome” than “beautiful” and “happy”:

There is beautiful story about the origin of the Water-splashing Festival. Long ago, there was a devil in the place where the Dai people lived, doing all kinds of evil. All the people hated him to the extremity, but had no method to punish him because of his powerful magic. Then one day in June by Dai calendar, his seventh wife, who had been robbed from the village, fuddled and induced him to speak out his own weak points. When he was sound sleeping, the seventh wife and the other sisters together used his hair to cut off his head. But once the head touched the ground, it began to burn fiercely. So the girls rushed over bravely to pick up the head and hold it in arms tightly, and the fire died out immediately. Therefore, the seven girls took turns to hold the head, each for one year. Every year at the time of changing turns, people would splash water on the girl who has held the head for a whole year, to wash away the blood on his body and the one-year fatigue. By and by, it developed into a happy festival to send off the old year and welcome the new.

In the villages of the Dai and other Buddhist minority groups in border areas of Yunnan, the holiday is spent with family and visiting the temple, with lots of eating and drinking and being merry.  The splashing of water on each other is generally fun and good-spirited in villages, unlike in town where the Han Chinese have taken over the holiday and made it into a tourist experience and an excuse for people to be drunk and obnoxious for several days.  On those days, it’s best to stay inside if you don’t want to be drenched to the bone as soon as you step out the door….

(to be continued)

Next in the series:  ”Water Splashing Past:  MS

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